Wednesday, March 8, 2017

Polish Vocabulary for Women's Day

Wednesday, February 1, 2017

St. Valentine Relics in Poland

In Poland during Valentine's Day? Take a trip to Chełmno to see St. Valentine's relics (aka bits of his skull!).

Friday, May 6, 2016

How many of you are planning to skip church this Sunday (mother's day)?

I asked this question to an adoption/infertility forum: How many of you are planning to skip church this Sunday (mother's day)? The response was overwhelming in favor of skipping church this Sunday.

Here are some of the responses:

“Not going. Its too painful for me. My mom passed away 5 years ago, and I haven't been able to be a mom. I dont want to be reminded of any of it.”

"Mother's Day is a difficult day for my adopted daughter. It reminds her that her birth mother abandoned her and then her foster mother who abused her. It's not a happy day for our family."

“Before we adopted, I skipped it on Mother's Day because I couldn't deal with it.

“I totally avoid church on Mother's Day and Father's Day.

“I went before I adopted and had an amazingly special moment there. A lady who attended church with me came up to me and told me she knew how hard it was for me. She told me she loved me and was praying for me, and knew I would be a great mom. It was so encouraging to know someone who hadn't struggled with infertility saw my pain and cared. I try to watch for women who are having the same struggle and encourage them like she did for me.

“We used to just disappear for the day, always found it very difficult, then we adopted our son and had a bio daughter it was ok & now since my mother passed away it's a difficult day again.”

“I would totally opt out, but I am performing that day. But oh, what I wouldn't give to have just one day where I could sleep in and not have to be anywhere or have anyone needing something immediately!

“I'll be avoiding church on Mother's Day, they make a really big deal about Moms and it would be a visual reminder of my "failure," not to mention pull up feelings of jealousy that I would then feel guilty about.

"Every year, I cry when they recognize mothers by having them stand up. I am a birthmom. I don't know if I should stand up or not. It's too painful. I'm taking a trip instead."

“Both of our pastors and wives experienced infertility and make sure the day is sensitive.

“I always skipped Mother's Day, Father's Day and baby dedications before kids!

“I am not going to church. Instead I will be drinking.

"Our church tries to give something to all the moms (usually a chocolate bar), and when they give me one I always feel weird cuz I'm not one. I just like skipping that bit of awkward."
“So.. I debated about weighing in on this. Mother's Day is hard for many many women. It is very hard for me as well. I think back to the babies who I lost, the children that I couldn't bring into this world and frankly, I don't want to be reminded of this. I don't want to celebrate the "lucky ones". Don't get me wrong. I'm not bitter. I have a strong faith but I will not be in church Sunday.

“I will be attending, but I have to admit there is a part of me that would like to avoid church this Sunday - not because of the pain of infertility though. This is a day of mixed emotions for me, but, more importantly, it is also a day when my now adopted daughters often struggle.

"My mother is very abusive. This day reminds me the pain she has caused me and my brothers."

Are you planning to skip church this Sunday?

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